Self Care…. What Is It?

There’s so many terminologies popping up these days and one of the more common ones happens to be self care.

Many of us would interpret self care as taking care of yourself, and you would be right. That is basically what self care is.

However, the question to be asked is, how do you take care of yourself?

Your physical, mental and emotional health is extremely important & even though self care is an extremely simple concept, we tend to overlook it quite easily.

Good self-care is what makes you the happiest version of yourself.

That means loving yourself, knowing what triggers your anxiety and stress, getting enough sleep, spending time with your loved ones, relaxing in your own special way, & doing things that you love and that make you laugh.

Self care is NOT selfish!

If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you take care of anyone else?

Time for some contemplation and relaxation

9 BENEFITS OF SELF CARE

  • Improves your mood
  • Increases self esteem
  • Increases productivity
  • Reduces anxiety
  • Leads to stronger relationships with yourself and others
  • Boosts your immune system
  • Increases your self control
  • Reduces your stress
  • Promotes better sleep

Need ideas to get started? Work your way through this list and find your favourites:

50 WAYS TO PRACTICE SELF CARE

  1. Go for a rub or a walk
  2. Buy yourself some beautiful flowers
  3. Schedule lunch with your favourite friend/s
  4. Make a list of things you’re grateful for
  5. Turn your phone off for the evening
  6. Pamper yourself with a facial at home
  7. Cook something healthy for dinner
  8. Take a nap
  9. Schedule a date night, even if it’s just with yourself
  10. Drink more water
  11. Clean your house (you can’t relax in a mess!)
  12. Light a scented candle you love
  13. Forgive yourself for something you’ve been punishing yourself for
  14. Check in with your budget
  15. Give yourself a manicure
  16. Unfriend people on social media who bring you down
  17. Try adding essential oils to your pampering products (learn how to do this safely)
  18. Ask for help with your to-do list
  19. Take a bubble bath
  20. Connect to your spirituality or pray your Salaah
  21. Set goals for self-improvement and take them one day at a time
  22. Take your vitamins
  23. Make a playlist of songs or nasheeds that make you happy
  24. Wear your favorite outfit or perfume when you know you have a rough day ahead
  25. Get 30 minutes of exercise
  26. Throw away old makeup (and clean your makeup brushes!)
  27. Floss your teeth (you know you don’t do it as often as you should)
  28. Buy yourself a latte or treat
  29. Practice breathing exercises
  30. Clean out your closet and donate what you don’t wear
  31. Have a picnic in a park or at the botanical gardens
  32. Paint, draw, or do something creative
  33. Sign up for a continuing education class or volunteer program
  34. Treat yourself to a movie night
  35. Spend 30 minutes reading a chapter of a new book or flipping through a magazine
  36. Do something that makes you happy
  37. Go to bed early (or sleep in if that’s more your style)
  38. Seek professional counseling if you’re struggling emotionally
  39. Indulge in a massage (check online for specials)
  40. Eat lunch outside
  41. Make an appointment to get your hair cut or done
  42. Wash your face with your favourite facial gel/wash/scrub
  43. Do a crossword puzzle
  44. Make a cup of herbal tea
  45. Try meditation; you can find lots of apps with free guided meditation online
  46. Read the Qur’aan
  47. Read Tasbeeh
  48. Read durood Sharif
  49. Make istighfaar
  50. Pray extra nafl Salaah, eg. Ishraaq salaah, Chaasht Salaah, Salaatul Awwabeen, Salaatul Tasbeeh, Salaatul Taubah, etc.

Verily In The Remembrance Of Allah Do Hearts Find Rest
Qur’aan 13:28

What forms of self care do you practice regularly? Tell us what works for you in the comments.

Muharram & Aashurah Mubarak

It’s the month Muharram 1441, Alhamdulillah.

The beginning of a New Islamic Year for us.

Happy New Hijri Year!

As I write this, it is the evening of the 6th of Muharram.

Just over halfway to the day of Aashurah.

What is the day of Aashurah, and why is it important?

Here are a few points on why Aashurah is important and significant to us, as Muslims;

• The day of Aashurah is the 10th of Muharram.

  • In the Holy Qur’aan, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’aala mentions 4 sacred months (Surah At – Tawba, Verse 36) , and in the Hadeeth, Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has mentioned:

“The year is Twelve Months, of which four are Sacred. The three consecutive months of Dhul – Qa’dah, Dhul – Hijjah, and Muharram, and Rajab, which comes between Jamadil – Aakhir and Sha’baan.”

(Sahih Al Bukhari)

  • Hazrat Adam Alayhis Salaam’s repentance was accepted by Allah, on this day, after he had eaten from the forbidden tree and was expelled to earth.
  • Nooh Alayhis Salaam’s Arc came to rest on Mount Judi in Iraq, on this day.
  • Moosa Alayhis Salaam and his people were saved on this day, from Firown (Pharaoh), when Allah SWT granted him the miracle of parting the Red Sea, by striking his staff against the sea. Firown and his army were drowned in the sea when they followed Moosa (AS).
  • The Prophet SAW recommended to his followers to fast on this day, as Hazrat Ibn Abbas Radiyallahu Anhu ( May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said:

The Prophet Sallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam came to Madinah and saw the Jews fasting on the Day of Aashurah. He said, “What is this?’ They said, “This is a righteous day, it is the day when Allah saved the Children of Israel from their enemies, so Moosa (AS) fasted on this day.” He said, “We have more right to Moosa than you,” so he fasted on that day and commanded (the Muslims) to fast on that day.

Sahih Al Bukhari

  • Fasting on this day is also a means of having our minor sins forgiven. Tawbah (repentance) will be required major sins.
    • The Prophet SAW has said, “Fasting the day of Arafah, I hope Allah will expiate thereby for the year before it and the year after it, and fasting the day of Aashurah, I hope Allah will expiate thereby for the year that came before it.” ( Sahih Muslim)
  • In order to differentiate ourselves (Muslims) from the Jews, the Prophet SAW said that we should also fast the day before Aashurah, the 9th of Muharram, or the day after Aashurah, the 11th of Muharram, as the Jews only fasted on the day of Aashurah.
  • The day of A’ashurah is also a day on which we should spend on our families. There are great blessings to be attained throughout the year for the one who spends generously on his family.

The Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam is reported to have said that: “One who generously spends on his family on Aashurah, 10th of Muharram), Allah SWT will be generous on/to him for the entire year.”

(Al Bayhaqi).

To this end, for many women, the next few days will be days of deadlines, ordering or finalizing orders for the decor, theme, food, desserts, & gifts for the day of Aashurah.

I wish you and you family both Muharram and Aashurah Mubarak. May we all be blessed abundantly by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’aala, in the coming year, Aameen.